Yes she does, thank you for answering and for your time. But how do I deal with this when it comes to religion? How is it seen in Islam?
sorry i missed this before but hopefully you’re still keeping an eye out for it! :((
honestly, it depends on your interpretation of islam. some people will tell you that it’s haram and unacceptable and point you to verses in the qur’an that they think outlaw queer sexuality. other people (myself included) interpret those verses differently and think that they outlaw rape, not consensual queer sexuality. even some scholars that aren’t “liberal” (i hate the dichotomy of conservative/liberal when it comes to islam but for the sake of clarity will use it here) believe that only same-sex sexual interactions are outlawed, not feelings/identity/relationships. so there is a lot of “grey area” between the many aspects of queer identity being completely haram or halal.
here’s my view of it: for something as beautiful and affirming and life-giving and spiritual as love and being with your beloved, i can see no reason that allah would curse that. when you are with someone and you love them for the sake of allah and care for and respect them and they do the same for you, there is something divine about that connection you have with that person. i thought about this long and hard for myself as a queer person and a muslim, and at the end of the day, i could not find a shred of doubt in my heart that allah is happy when i love and am loved. the gender of who i love is such a small part of the equation. whyever would it make a difference?
you have to think and pray about it and come to your own conclusions. but just remember that allah’s love for you is unconditional. don’t let anyone tell you differently. as for other queer muslims, we’re out here and we’re talking about it and supporting each other, so please never feel like you’re alone. here is a masterpost of resources for queer muslims that i think might help you out!
salaam, love & light to you, dear one.